To My 20-Year-Old Self: Sometimes It’s Better to be Single
If only the going-forward in life were as clear as the looking-back.
Being 20 is tough. So much pressure to know what you’re going to do with the rest of your life. So many hopes, dreams, and aspirations. So many mess-ups, failures, and disappointments. So little sleep, time, and money. And unfortunately we don’t have 20/20 vision for living life.
Even though 20 is not the easiest age, I hope you’ll be encouraged by this brand new series in which guest writers share wisdom with their 20-year-old selves. And the good news is we all have permission to eavesdrop.
Today’s post comes from a dear friend Leanne Shirtliffe who lives in Canada and blogs at Ironic Mom. Our friendship really started going somewhere when she asked me to guest post: What to Do with a Dead Chicken. She and I still get frequent search queries about dead chickens that bring people to our blogs. Who knew there was a demand for such information?
I hope we’ll get to meet in person some day soon so that we can shoot hoops or shoot the breeze or do whatever strikes our fancy. Make sure to stop by Leanne’s blog, but first read this powerful poetry that Leanne sends to her 20-year-old self.
Sometimes It’s Better To Be Single
Dear 20-Year-Old Self,
If he judges you for your past, he’s not worthy.
If he wishes his interests were your interests, he’s not worthy.
If he judges you for not loving Tolkien, he’s not worthy.
If he writes songs for his friends but not for you, he’s not worthy.
If he wishes your breasts were perkier, he’s not worthy.
If he judges you for helping a friend recover from an abortion, he’s not worthy.
Even if he has a succulent bass voice you want to curl up in forever…
Even if he is passionate about social justice…
Even if he knows just how to kiss you…
Even if he’s someone you think your parents want you to marry…
Even if you love his family…
Even if he writes you drawer-fulls of notes, addressing each one, Fair Damsel…
It doesn’t matter if he’s not worthy.
It matters if you believe you are worthy.
Because you are.
Do you have anything you’d add to the not-worthy guy or girl list?
Those who are at least 25-years-old and interested in guest-posting for this series can submit a 750-words-or-less piece (letter, prose, poetry, etc.). Potential topics include, but are not limited to: peer pressure, success, career, starting a family, relationships, roommates, partying, gossip, work, internal issues (i.e. eating disorders, anger, self-esteem, etc.). Really, the possibilities are endless. Submissions or questions can be sent to newlifecalu[at]gmail(dot)com.
Be sure to use the Twitter hashtag for this series: #TM20YOS.